Photography by: Steven Michael Photo
K and I are no newbies when it comes to long distance relationships. Both fortunately and unfortunately we do hold a few secrets to keeping the love in the air while being hours and hours apart. Five hours and 308 miles to be exact.
It was love at first sight, some may say! K shared the deats of that here if you’re interested. Ever since that fateful day over 7 years ago K and I have been like peanut butter and jelly. Macaroni and cheese. All those food cliches? That’s us. Once college rolled around I opted to move to the complete opposite side of Missouri to persue my dreams.
In high school I worked as a hostess at an Italian restaurant and the “older kids” already flaunting a college degree or well on their way to success would tell me K and I’s relationship would never last. Surprise, surprise! I could not be more thrilled to prove those silly ladies and gentlemen wrong. Is it difficult? Without a doubt. Is if worth it? Most definitely.
Times were very difficult in the beginning, the secret is to find the perfect recipe for you and your love. Some couples require constant communication throughout the day, while K and I can suffice on a simple good morning beautiful and goodnight. The Lord says not to envy, but my girlfriends who would struggle to go 3 days without seeing their beau, I cannot lie I wished I was in their shoes during those five years of long distance.
K and I do still have a teenie bit of long distance to do (long distance marriage anyone?!) but with our little tips + tricks monthly visits become a pinch less dreadfully far apart and add a lot more smiles to our relationship!
1 | Have date nights.
This was one of my absolute favorite ways of maintaining and strengthening our relationship as the years passed. You are probably like seriously Kaitlyn? We are a gajillion miles apart that’s impossible. Well, let me explain. Skype. FaceTime. Seriously. Long distance life savers. Since K and I had been dating two years or so prior to moving we had a dating routine. We had our favorite restaurants and cutesy date nights which I adored. There is absolutely no reason to let those go simply due to a hop, skip, and a jump distance! Nearly every weekend or every other [at the most] K and I would have a dinner and a movie night. We would log into Skype and tune into Netflix. On the count of three we would both press play. Voila! Netflix and chill: long distance edition.
2 | Send love letters.
The hopeless romantic in me had to include precious love letters. Think the notebook. Maybe not so dramatic, but you get my point. Even if they aren’t full of sappy love song lyrics or confessions of adoration, a letter is a letter. And it is the sweetest (+ cost efficient) gesture. Some of my favorites from K are overloaded with puns which put the cheesiest smile on my face when we are apart! I saved all of my letters from K and put them into a wedding keepsake book. I have ones from 2010 where he said “kaitlyn, I am going to marry you.” Digging through those during wedding week was the sweetest surprise! Cue the waterworks.
3 | Surprise visits.
Now this requires a pinch more planning and maybe a bit of help from your girlfriends or his guys to perfectly coordinate your schedules. There is nothing quite like hearing a knock on your door (expecting the pizza delivery boy ) but instead finding a handsome gentleman with a bouquet of flowers.
4 | Phone Calls.
A quick ring is the perfect fix in a pinch. K and I are both busy bees, so while texting may seem more feasible it isn’t always the case. I’m an early bird which equates to going to bed early as well. On the other hand, K is the polar opposite. He goes to bed way past my bedtime and sets 12 alarms in the morning just to wake up. Many evening K would give me a quick phone call on the way to the gym while I’m doing my bedtime pampering. Short, sweet, and a simple way to show you care.
5 | Make Time.
It is true what they say: we all have the same number of hours in a single day. However, it is how you utilize those hours that will make or break your relationship! If you do not prioritize a little bit of time a day to your relationship it may slowly fade. Plain and simple. Just watch one less YouTube video a day or scroll through Pinterest five minutes less, easy peasy.
I hope these tips help you to maintain a tip-top long distance relationship with your love. If you both truly adore each other, it is a piece of cake. K and I are proof 😉 .
What are your secrets to keeping love the in the air?!